A Toronto policeman’s advice that women could escape rape if they avoided “dressing like sluts” has sparked international protest. In nearly 80 cities around the world, women (and men) are stripping down to fight this prevailing view that victims are “asking for it.” However “slutty” they dress, women never invite their rapists. Today, the SlutWalk arrives in New York, and between the recent “rape cop” acquittal and DSK’s release, it’s pretty topical.
Of course, not all women are so eager to reclaim the word “slut.” In the NYTimes Magazine, Rebecca Traister endorses protesting these “ugly characterizations,” but argues, “to do so while dressed in what look like sexy stewardess Halloween costumes seems less like a victory than capitulation (linguistic and sartorial) to what society already expects of its young women.”
Still, there’s too much semantic gymnastics around the definition of rape. Whoopi Goldberg’s world includes something called “rape-rape,” which doesn’t involve Roman Polanski having sex with an unconscious 13- year old. Sure, this is an extreme example, but it’s important to remember that rape isn’t just the Law and Order-style stranger breaking and entering crime. Most victims know their assailants, and consent can seem unclear when you’re drunk to the point of incapacitation. The thing is, when it comes to the law, there’s no half-rape, rape-ish, or gray area. But too many college women have been sexually assaulted, and remain reluctant to label it what it is was.
One in four women is a victim of sexual assault. That statistic is horrifying. It means you definitely know someone who’s suffered. Please remember, Columbia offers valuable resources to help.
Counseling and Psychological Services (Columbia): 212-854-2878
Rosemary Furman Counseling Center (Barnard): 212-854-2092
Nightline Peer Counseling: 212-854-7777
Columbia Rape Crisis/Anti-Violence Support Center: 212-854-4357
And, as we’ve said before, don’t underestimate the compassion, even empathy, of your friends.
Today, thousands will march in the SlutWalk holding onto the firm belief that whatever they wear or drink, or however they act, women never have a right to be raped or blamed for it. The march begins at noon in Union Square. Columbia Women’s Organization will gather at 11am by the Broadway gates to head down.
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@To Anonymous Do u think its ok to dress in micro minis showing those dirty panties when the temperature is 60 deg F. What the hell u want……its like going to a tiger and teasing him with meat and then complaining he devoured u….
A little restraint will help in the long run…..though I know all of u women get an uncanny pleasure when realize that men are ogling at u…..
Nothing wrong abt it….but lets just see things as clear as possible….rather than blaming everything on the XY chromosome…
Love u
@Columbian Policeman I cannot but agree with my Canadian counterpart….women shd have the sense to dress….
@Anonymous You’re right. Men are helpless dick-driven maniacs who can’t help but crawl between every pair of legs they see exposed by tiny skirts. It’s a woman’s job to have the sense to dress properly so men can stay out of trouble!
…But seriously I don’t want you protecting me on this campus.
@Bottom Line... If it was like my sister or friend or daughter or whomever, I still wouldn’t want her dressed in high heels in a shady neighborhood down a dark alley without mace at night, regardless of whether she deserves it or not.
Saying to use discretion and saying it’s not the woman’s fault are not contradictory ideas…
@Anonymous What’s with the thumb downs? What is objectionable about this? Really, tell me. I want to know.
@Anonymous basically victimhood complex is not applicable when you are talking about the ‘oppressed’ gender but okay when you are talking about an oppressed civilization or nation.
@Umm. I don’t know what those words in that order mean. That was nonsense.
@thank you Bwog. this post is right on point.
@Copy edit? “One in four women has survived rape or attempted rape.” Unfortunately ambiguous, though horrifying is an accurate descriptor either way…
@person “One in four women has survived rape or attempted rape.”
I felt bad about it, but I still chuckled at the ambiguity.
@Anonymous oh hey there
@Anonymous Jesus that means 75% of the pussy out there has yet to be plundered!
@Anonymous In all seriousness, that was maybe the funniest thing I’ve ever read.
Plundered might be the funniest word in the English language…
@Anonymous As a victim of attempted rape and sexual assault in both my childhood and adulthood, this thread is sickening.
There is nothing funny about this topic. Not even remotely.
@Victim Thanks for this, Bwog.
@why is bwog censoring my comments? im hurt.
@All Rapists Unite!! What? Slutwalk NYC 2011
Where? Union Square NYC
When? October 1st, 2011
Counseling and Psychological Services (Columbia): 212-854-2878
Rosemary Furman Counseling Center (Barnard): 212-854-2092
Nightline Peer Counseling: 212-854-7777
Columbia Rape Crisis/Anti-Violence Support Center: 212-854-4357
@Anonymous enables women to have stunning physiques?
Bra-colli!
@Meet first in my room @10:30.
@Anonymous do they have any scientific evidence that dressing like sluts doesn’t make one more likely to be raped?
@Anonymous lol@thumbsing down an inquiry for truth…
@What they're fighting against no one is arguing against that. they’re arguing against the presumption that women can somehow invite an intrusive and criminal act upon themselves, somehow absolving the rapist of any accountability.
driving while black makes you more likely to get pulled over. by your logic, maybe i should bleach my skin.
@Anonymous “Columbia Women’s Organization will gather at 11pm by the Broadway gates to head down.”
I’m assuming that should be AM.
@Carolyn Yep, it’s fixed now.