Print Teaser: Long Distance Relationships
Written by Bwog Staff
The following is an article appearing in the upcoming issue of The Blue and White.
“Do you have a girlfriend/boyfriend?”
“Yeah, it’s metaphysical.”
“Cool. Where is she/he?”
“A senior at our high school/at a state school back home. But we’re going to text each other every night and make it work.”
Or something like that. Be prepared to hear this conversation—or similar riffs on the theme—roughly 600 times over the next week (unless you can duck the first-year swarm). According to Dr. Gregory Guldner, director of the Center for the Study of Long Distance Relationships (longdistancerelationships.net), up to 50% of first year students are in an ominously termed “LDR.”
In a period defined by “replacement”—new friends for old, floormates for siblings, no one for parents—half of Carman is unwilling to let those memories remain in their families’ station wagons. Guldner claims that as many as 78% of college students will experience an LDR. So you’re not alone now, and don’t feel alone when your high-school sweetheart stops calling your ROLM phone: 74% of LDRs don’t make it past their first year.
But still, what about that whole distance thing? “She’ll be doing the same things I did last year, so I can relate,”
Guldner is less sanguine. “I sometimes compare intimacy to a rope that holds two people together,” he muses. “The inner core of the rope is the sharing of emotions between one another. But around this core are thousands of tiny fibers made up of each seemingly mundane exchange or experience that occurs between a couple. While no one fiber is terribly important, as a whole they create the true strength of the bond”.