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Barnard Slumber Parties Disrupted

Totally forbidden. 100% against the rules

Totally forbidden. 100% against the rules

The overnight guest policy at Barnard was changed this year.  Sleepover queen Courtney Couillard reports.

Most Barnard girls have experienced the biggest over-exaggerated fiasco of living in the quad—you’re going to the bathroom at 1 am and run into a rare species: a man. But as most girls know, it really is not a big deal, or even a deal at all. While the first year dorms at Barnard are (shockingly!) all female, floormates having guests of the opposite sex is a natural thing that happens. However, the amount of time a student can have a guest has been cracked down this past year and Barnard is taking it seriously.

According the Barnard Res Life website, “in terms of overnight guests, any individual may be hosted as a guest in the Barnard residence halls for no more than three consecutive nights and no more than six nights total in any 30-day period.”

So apparently you can’t have your boyfriend or non-Barnard girlfriend come over more than six nights per month, but it’s totally chill if you bring someone different home each night.

And it isn’t just the three consecutive night policy. Columbia’s Res Life states “overnight stays for one guest are limited to five days in any consecutive 30 day period. An overnight stay is defined as any stay within the hours of 11:00pm and 8:00am.” That means  if you have a guest who comes up the room at 11pm and leaves at 12am, you have lost a guest privilege for the month.

Columbia’s guest policy has never been strictly enforced, but Barnard seems to be really into the idea of cracking the whip. It’s unclear how accurate the system can be as it is not run through a computer database, or if attendants will care, but at a smaller school it’s much easier for the attendants to keep track.

However, it’s the principle that the rules have been enacted that questions whether or not we can wear our big girl panties and make our own decisions. I see what the colleges are getting at. You don’t want to have some bum hopping room to room on a floor and scheming a free place to live on Barnard campus. But since the colleges are comprised of adults, it seems only sensible we have the option to proctor when we have guests and how often we want to.

College is about “doing your thang.” Some students will never have a guest in the dorm room while some may be having an abundance of “sleepovers.” Now, however, Barnard girls will have to schedule accordingly.

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  • Anonymous says:

    @Anonymous Disobey. Tyrants are only successful when their victims are complacent.

    1. Anonymous says:

      @Anonymous A well armed society is a polite society. I say Barnard girls should get polite. How do you like dem apples d spahr?

  • Actually... says:

    @Actually... …there are trans* guys living in first-year Barnard dorms. But carry on with your “thang,” Courtney.

    1. cc '15 says:

      @cc '15 I understand why you’re saying this and I agree with you, but you’re coming off as a bit of a jerk.

    2. anon says:

      @anon jesus. i am 100% supportive of everything trans*, but it’s annoying when people are so knit-picky that you can’t even allege that males in a FEMALE dorm somewhat rare…. ADDITIONALLY, yes, there are trans* men living in Barnard dorms, but they are not the majority, and therefore are still rare. So Courtney is still right, and you are just passive aggressive and unnecessarily rude to a completely well-meaning and accurate author.

  • Anonymous says:

    @Anonymous A bit late with this…

  • Anonymous says:

    @Anonymous Ha! Joke’s on you, I never spend the night at a girls’ dormroom, ‘specially not a Barnard one!

    …aw, crap.

  • you got it wrong says:

    @you got it wrong the policy is being enforced on a “situational” basis, meaning that it’s only put into action if there is a problem with a guest. the point of the policy is to prevent people from using barnard as free housing, since it’s 1. wrong and 2. seriously annoying to everyone else.

    oh bwog, when will you learn about proper reporting?

    1. really? says:

      @really? where did you hear it was going to be done “situationally”? we’ve had zero information on how strictly or lackadaisically it’s going to be enforced.

  • Anon says:

    @Anon SOLUTION: Go to the columbia guy’s dorm. If the guest is not from columbia then just go to grants tomb everyone i know is dying to get in.

  • LGBT-identified BC student says:

    @LGBT-identified BC student i really hate it when guys sleep in the quad

  • Anonymous says:

    @Anonymous at RA meetings, they did not say that this is a case by case thing

    especially since guests are now organized by suites instead of one massive sign in sheet, this will actually be really easy to track.

  • Anonymous says:

    @Anonymous Those asian girls in the picture are soooo hot

  • angry says:


    1. Anonymous says:

      @Anonymous It’s not about guests. It’s about money.

  • Slut shaming says:

    @Slut shaming I don’t know about you, but this sounds a lot like slut shaming. Fuck you Barnard.

    1. Anonymous says:

      @Anonymous This was my first thought too, but it’s actually steady-relationships shaming, really. You could sleep with a different person every night under this policy and be a-o-k.

  • commuter says:

    @commuter lol @ reslife

  • commuter says:

    @commuter But actually, how are they going to enforce this? If you sign a guest before the given hours, they can’t just stop you from going in without breaking policy, as the guest *might* be signed out before the given hours.

  • disgruntled alum says:

    @disgruntled alum This saddens me…

    One of the biggest deterrent for girls to even apply to Barnard is its ‘stricter’ rules. The perception is that you aren’t allowed to have a real social life unless you go to Columbia. (Proof: I used to be a BSAR and this was the number one concern I heard from prospies.)

    Barnard Admissions & ResLife reps, I promise you, this HURTS admissions and students. The school is a serious enough place as is and the amount of students you’re driving away is worse. You need to relax a bit so girls are comfortable and want to come. If they want gender isolation, they’re going to choose Wellesley anyway. It’s ridiculous enough that they changed the guest limit from 3 people to 2 people. No one wants to spend time on campus. If that’s the goal, then bravo.

  • in the know says:

    @in the know This policy is actually still in the works and reslife is ready and willing to tweak it if need be.
    To people who may be in a relationship this could seem like an attack on them and their significant other. This is something that students, instead of complaining here, could talk to Barnard Housing Advisory Committee about!

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