As former Blue and White managing editor Anna Bahr, BC ’14, pointed out in her examination of Columbia’s policies on Gender-Based Misconduct, the NSOP program “Consent Is Sexy” was in much need of an overhaul. In light of significant changes to the program, Bwog sat down with a consent educator (who asked to remain anonymous) to discuss what’s working and where work still needs to be done. We’d also like to encourage any attendees of the new program to write for us about their experience. Send stories to editors@bwog.com.
Bwog: So what’s new?
Consent Educator: The program is longer this year than past years. It included two half hour presentations from SVR [Sexual Violence Response] and the University Gender Based Misconduct Office. This was followed by a half hour portion in small groups with consent educators, including a presentation about resources, and an opportunity for students to ask questions.
Bwog: How did the students respond? Previously the program has been something of a joke.
CE: The tone of the program itself became more serious. Unfortunately, by the time the students got to the consent educators, the time period for the workshop had gone over by an hour already, so many students were pretty checked out. While I’m grateful that the new program actually discusses sexual violence and (briefly) discusses abuse, I’m somewhat worried that students won’t come away from the presentation examining their own behaviors and relationship to consent—presentations on policy can feel very removed from talking through the tools that people need to become better at navigating these situations and creating a culture of consent.
Bwog: What were the main points of the new curriculum?
CE: The new program does a much better job of explaining resources and options to students, which was missing in past years. They also briefly mention in the presentation how identity factors influences who experiences the most violence, which is important. [In terms of the actual workshop,] there were scenarios in the presentation that helped outline some [practical skills], and I’ve heard that some small group discussions were more productive than others. Unfortunately, many of the groups for the consent educator portion were missing students who had to leave since the program lasted so much longer than it was supposed to, which made it difficult to have the conversations about consent as a group that I would have liked to see happen. The handouts the students received were useful, though, it included a pamphlet on how to support survivors, and a clear outlining of campus resources. The LGBTQ+ specific flyers [Ed note: Bwog has heard that previous years of the program have entirely lacked discussion of the queer community on campus] that consent educators were supposed to have for their groups didn’t end up happening, which is unfortunate.
Bwog: Any final thoughts?
CE: It was encouraging to see such drastic changes in resources and presentation from last year, but I hope that they continue to revise the program in this coming year.
This interview was edited for clarity and brevity.
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@Anonymous Is there some definitive guide to consent somewhere we can all follow? The more people I talk to the more I realize we all have very different definitions of consent. For example, my boyfriend’s roommate just said that it’s okay to have sex with a sleeping girl if she started out awake and passes out mid romp. But to me and my friends this is obviously rape. I don’t believe this is a question of gender, since my boyfriend also agrees that is not consensual sex since a sleeping person cannot consent (if you’re not in a state where you can drive, you’re not in a state where you can consent). I think the fact that it started consensual is irrelevant since consent now doesn’t imply consent forever.
I’m curious about how we as a community can have these discussions and come to some sort of common ground.
@Bummed Alum It’s really messed up that someone would think that would be ok, and that there are people at this school who would probably defend his behavior.
What I don’t understand is how so many opponents to this issue insist upon frequently-marginalized cases of male sexual assault, but then go around and say things like that. Inevitable trolling aside (“shit would be so cash bro!!! top kek lol ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°) “), how would YOU feel if someone continued to have sex with you after you passed out (that is, if you could even physically continue the act)? What if the deed was done at a party, and one of the partners left, leaving the person there (which happens more than you think)? Would it still be cool if some random person came in and started fooling around?
Forgive the rant, it’s just kind of fucked up. thx for sharing
@Anonymous False accusations for instances of sexual assault occur on a very minimal level. The percentage is no higher than any other crime at 1-3%. Additionally, instances of false accusation rarely occur due to the strenuous nature of filing a report
@jfs and every other crime goes to a real court where a real trial occurs and a real verdict is reached, not lets expel a student from campus because someone said we should without due process of law
@Anonymous That number is garbage and you know it. Maybe for violent rapes…
Where are you even getting this stat anyway? Curious, cause what’s that same source say about sexual assault rates?
@Anonymous http://www.fbi.gov/about-us/cjis/ucr/crime-in-the-u.s/1996/96sec2.pdf
Actually, it’s ~8 percent. Keep in mind, this data is from ’96. In the past twenty years or so, the number of rapes has increased, therefore this statistic isn’t set in stone.
The National Crime Victimization Survey, based on projections from a national sample survey, says that at least 248,300 individuals were raped or sexually assaulted in 2007, up from 190,600 in 2005, the last year the survey was conducted. The study surveyed 73,600 individuals in 41,500 households. Among all violent crimes, domestic violence, rape, and sexual assault showed the largest increases. Except for simple assault, which increased by 3 percent, the incidence of every other crime surveyed decreased.
@Am I missing something? Went throughs the whole thing and
Still nothing about the penalties for false accusations.
@Anonymous Is there ever a penalty for false accusations? I mean, if you falsely accuse someone of stealing your computer without proof the worse thing that’ll happen is you won’t get your computer back.
A trial determines if the defendant is guilty beyond reasonable doubt. But I totally understand why you are confused, since a lot of rape cases pretend it’s the victim who is on trial rather than the defendant.
@Anonymous Falsifying a police report, lying to police, perjury?
@Anonymous Slander, libel, harassment, fraud, forgery, falsifying evidence…
@Anonymous It’s true, you have a right to sue if you feel you were defamed.
For any of the above things, you would have to first prove that the statements were false (I.e that beyond a reasonable doubt, you did NOT rape your accuser). In some cases this will be obvious (e.g you can prove you were on a different continent at the time in question). But for the cases I assume you mean, it is just as hard as proving that you raped beyond a reasonable doubt. For example, if Mr. Nussenger believed he was falsely accused (as he seems to believe) he would have to prove that he definitely did not rape her, and there is no doubt. Most likely Emma has ample evidence to cause doubt, such as months of therapy, drop in grades, a PTSD subscription, you get the idea …
I’m not sure how you could prove her police reports were false given that all the details surrounding the incident line up and the only thing in question is a matter of whether or not there was consent.
Anyway, I’m not really sure why you feel this belongs in a consent workshop?
@Anonymous There should probably be penalties for true accusations before we worry about false accusations.